Love is a strong emotion that can make or break not just your own personality but your relationships as well. Your relationships depend not just on how much you love the other person, but also how much you love yourself!
As John Lennon famously said:
“We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create.”
Know That You Are Going To Be OKAY
When you’re in a toxic relationship, everything you do or don’t is about that one person. You abandon yourself to keep that relationship going. Your self-worth becomes attached with the actions and behavior of the other person and that’s when you fall out of love with yourself. If you are in such a relationship know that you deserve better. Dump him. That’s the first step to getting better. It takes a lot of courage to decide to leave. When you end such a relationship, you won’t understand how to live let alone be happy. But know that you are going to be Okay. You’ve taken the first step, now take it one day at a time!
Don’t Regret Anything
Maybe you broke up with them, or he broke up with you. That’s all history – no need to dwell in the past. Don’t regret anything. Hold your head up high and move on.
Being in a relationship with them was a mistake – don’t regret it because your mistakes make you who you are. As long as you learn from your mistakes, they are blessings in disguise. They tell you what you want and don’t want in life. They help you define yourself. Don’t let this one experience let you shy away from life!
Learn To Let Go
You cannot move forward if you are holding on to the past. Let go of your Ex and the pain that the relationship caused you because if you don’t, you’ll be spending energy remembering the past instead of embracing the new possibilities that now light up your path! Letting go sometimes seems hard, because you are not used to anything else. This is the time to spend with yourself, and accept that the relationship you were in was making you unhappy rather the other way round. Know that you deserve the best, and keep the hope for the brighter future.
Love starts with yourself. If you don’t deem yourself worthy of love, how can someone else?
Love Your Imperfections
Your ex had their imperfections, didn’t he? And yet you were able to love him. You saw behind all that bullshit, all that crap – you saw their real potential. You knew they weren’t broken, they were just bent. You were their biggest confidant, support, cheerleader. DO THAT FOR YOURSELF. Love your flaws, your imperfections. Love your edges, they make you unique. Don’t let anyone define how you feel about yourself.
Understand Your Worth
This is the most important and essential step in falling back in love with yourself. You compromised on your needs and your dignity once, but tell yourself, NEVER AGAIN. Never again will you allow someone to push you around, to tell you you’re not good enough, make you feel unworthy. NO. No one else will ever come before yourself now. You will never abandon yourself, for a relationship, for another person.
You are worth so much more, you are extraordinary, and you too, will find true love. But love starts with yourself. If you don’t deem yourself worthy of love, how can someone else? Love yourself, and in time someone else will too.